In the Blink of an Eyelid

At a recent conference I felt goosebumps, shivers down my spine, numbness, lump in throat, tears in eyes.

In the blink of an eyelid, everything can change.

Someone in the family has an accident and is left with catastrophic injuries,  life threatening. They require complex care by specialists.

In a blink of an eyelid, the wing mirror of an HGV turning left can clip a cyclist … 40% of whom are women, like Vicky, who was run over. And who many, many, many hours later after having an amputation and other operations had a look in her eyes: “why am I still here, why didn’t they let me go?”

In a blink of an eyelid the life-emergency response teams – both helicopter and on the road specialist consultants responding to Code Red with paramedics are at an accident site in minutes, providing care which on occasions has been to open the chest, right there on the roadside, and resuscitate the heart. Then the trauma teams at amazing places like St George’s Hospital or Royal London have their full teams of experienced consultants, surgeons, anaesthetics, nurses, radiologists, porters ready and waiting 24/7 for Code Red – bleeding which can cause death, or Code Black, a brain injury. To a lesser extent, there are similar teams who deal with spinal injury, but it is not as progressive a set up as Code Red and Code Black (we were informed, but may be changed now).

Then there are the litigation specialists, working to get compensation for these people whose life has changed just so dramatically, so completely in the blink of an eyelid. The CEO who has suffered brain injury whose family have to cope with him dropping his trousers in the middle of the street, or setting fire to the kitchen. Physically there’s little to show that there is something not right with him, He forgets. Is emotional – quick to tears, quick to temper, his wife doesn’t know this new man, his children see their Dad, but don’t know why he acts the way he acts.

In the blink of an eyelid, the family whose whole life has changed who, after having their loved one in hospital for a year finally bring him home, to a different home that they have had to move to, the person is still their loved one, but is unrecognisable in his behaviour, or his daily needs. Or the child who has special needs, a wheelchair, needing to be closer to a specific school, whose siblings are moved from their schools, their friends, because of the catastrophic and complex needs that an accident, of whatever nature has upset their lives completely.

Then there are the case managers, many of whom I work with, providing moral, practical and emotional support to parents and other family members. Who are dealing with the practicalities like organising equipment such as wheelchairs, arranging other professionals who are needed such as physiotherapists, speech and language specialist, occupational therapists, psychologists , and organising adapted transport, whilst the family mourn the loss of the person they used to know, and start learning to know this new person in their midst.

And, not so much in the blink of an eyelid, we, HR advisers, help the case manager find a caring person, a support worker, or three or 12 support workers for one person, who has had these catastrophic injuries. These caring support workers will provide respite to parents and family, provide personal care, emotional support to the injured person on their very long journey (or in some cases a much shorter journey depending on how life-threatening the injury) through rehabilitation to lead as normal a life as they can. Or to spend the night awake watching a child breath and keeping them at a certain temperature because if they don’t, it could mean death.

Do you know such a person. A person who is a carer looking for vocational
work. We have some jobs for them. My business is not a recruitment agency. We provide HR support to our clients, which includes recruiting and selecting the best.

I’m appealing to you if you drive. Watch out for that cyclist. Keep off your mobile phone when driving – you know who you are – for this reason …

In the blink of an eyelid, you could cause untold heartbreak to a family and their loved ones.

London, an amazing, exciting, busy city, where in the blink of an eyelid … things can change. But in any city, or even on a quiet village road, anything can happen, in the blink of an eyelid.

The conference was held in a fabulous building – the Institute of Engineers – and I met some amazing people.

I wrote this blog many months ago – have updated a bit, but its essentially relevant today as it was yesterday.

Whatever you do today. Enjoy to the fullest.
❤️💕❤️💕

My song “Pink” for this blog brought me to an eye-rainfall. It is so heartfelt and sung beautifully by Dolly Parton, Monica, Jordin Sparks, Rita Wilson and Sara Evans. My blog is about catastrophic brain injury, but the words to this song about another traumatic occurrence, will have meaning to family and friends going through trauma. Thank you to my author friend Matthew for sharing the video.

“Pink” found on YouTube a wonderful song by 5 beautiful women

Lyrics – Pink

Someday
Pink will just be a color
Not a ribbon to remember
A best friend or a mother

Someday
You won’t have to put a wig on
And a baseball cap will just be a hat
Not somethin’ to hide under
‘Cause your hair is gone
Someday’s comin’ any day

You gotta believe without seeing
You gotta keep going, keep breathing
When you face a day that feels like you’re gonna break
Lean on the ones that love you
The guardian angels above you
And think about when pink
Was just another color

Someday
Your time will be your own time
No waiting rooms or doctor news
That make you wanna cry

And someday
We’re gonna have a party
We’ll pop pink balloons, with people who know
Love can be an army (is an army)
Someday, it’s coming any day

You gotta believe without seeing
You gotta keep going, keep breathing
When you face a day that feels like you’re gonna break
Lean on the ones that love you
The guardian angels above you
And think about when pink
Was just another color

Ooh-ooh
Just another color
Someday and it’s coming any day

You gotta believe without seeing
You gotta keep going, keep breathing
When you face a day that feels like you’re gonna break
You gotta believe without seeing (you gotta believe)
You gotta keep going, keep breathing (you gotta keep going)
When you face a day that feels like you’re gonna break
(Oh, that you’re gonna break)
So lean on the ones that love you
The guardian angels above you
And think about when pink
Was just another color
Ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh
Just another color (just another color)

Source: Musixmatch

Songwriters: Victoria Lynn Shaw / Jodi Maureen Horovitz / Erin Kinsey

Pink lyrics © Edgehill Music Publishing Llc, Chewys Moms Songs, Speakers Go Boom Songs

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Written by Cecily a few years ago and updated on Sunday 31 July 2022. I’d love it if you LIKE or follow cecilyswritings, on my Facebook Page. Follow my blogs at Cecilyswritings.wordpress.comand cecilystravels.wordpress.com. © Cecily Lalloo 2022 and © Cecilyswritings 2022. You’re welcome to share anything on this blog, but please give credit. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material, and photos taken by Cecily, without permission is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links (shares) may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given with appropriate and specific direction to the original content, or to other authors/writers/artists where they are acknowledged. Feature image is from unsplash.com

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