A Thousand Years by Christina Perri
A lovely song and video to take you through reading my last blog of 2018.
The year draws to an end, like a curtain closing on the last Act.
It’s sometimes a sad feeling when I think of what has happened throughout the year. And another year gone. Where has it gone? Far too quickly. What’s made me sad? What’s made me happy? Why did this happen and why didn’t that? Is there an encore to be had?
Are you making your new year’s resolutions? Is it that time of the year when you look back and see what didn’t happen, then look forward and make all the plans that you tell yourself will happen this year?
How long do you have to wait for your birthday? At the beginning of the year or later? Each birthday is iur own individual new year.
It’s a time to reflect.
To make amends.
To turn over a new leaf.
To give thanks for a new day.
To find inner peace.
To love the life that we live.
To find our happy place.
To remember all this not just at the new year but always.
People can be annoying
Life is strange. But we make our lives what we want it to be. It’s how we view life. How we think about things. How we listen. Speak. Share. Life is really what we make it.
What have been the lessons learnt this year. What do I want to continue. What do I want to let go. Can I let go. We can’t do without people and sometimes we can’t do with them. Each person I meet, whether in my personal life or in the business world, brings something different to me. I can’t say anything is ‘bad’ because even if it seems that way at the time, it is actually good because I learn from it (well, I hope I do!) … whether it is Love or Annoyance … I would not have it any other way.
So, in no particular order, this is a small list of what I have gained from you, my family, friends and followers … thank you.
Without people, who are we. What are we.
Business blossoms like a rose
This year my business has blossomed like a rose. It has grown sweeter. Lots of hard work has gone into getting it to the place that it is. There is still much more to be done. Petals will fall but the rose will blossom each year. There are people in my business and those that surround me and support me who I need. I could not be where I am today without them. Thank you to them. To my Team, both core and my external support and my suppliers. A big thank you to my Clients. Where would we be without Clients. Nowhere! Embrace HR is just what it does on the tin. We help small businesses to embrace people who are the core of the business. They are the people who sustain a business. Who provide its reputation. Who add to the bottom line.
“Embrace HR … because people make profits”.
Next year we will celebrate 10 years in this business – wow – really?
Grandparenting vs Alzheimers
In my personal life my family has grown with our one-year old grandson. He is such a delightful little fellow. We accompanied our son and daughter-in-law and little Sebastian on his first holiday, to Barcelona. We spent a few days with them and it was a joy to be with him in a different land. There are so many articles about grandparents who babysit … the benefits are immense. Just the sheer joy of seeing a wide smile on his face when he sees me. Watching in delight as he took his first strong steps, and ‘clapping himself’ having done so! Seeing him trying to tie himself into his car seat or highchair. Watching him climb up the radiator, toes attached and little hands pulling himself up, to look at his birthday cards on the window sill. What a fabulous photo that is of our little grandee. Unfortunately for me, my son and his wife do not want photos of their little one shared on social media. I can understand, so I share his photos with family and friends in private.
There have been many articles about the health benefits of grandparents interacting with their loved ones as well as babysitting. Scientific studies show that grandparents who babysit live longer and there is even research suggesting that it could lower the incidence of alzheimers. I think of my maternal Grandma and Grandpa (I didn’t meet my paternal grandparents). We spent many happy hours in their company. I don’t remember either of them suffering with loss of memory. I don’t remember my Mum, who was over 80 years old when she passed on, losing her memory. Both my Mum and my Grandma were surrounded by many grandchildren or children of family and friends all the time – a rather extended family. There must be something in it – this thing about babysitting grandkids vs alzheimers.
Every year there are always good things and not too good things that I can recall. This is a good thing that I have just learnt. My grandchild will keep us joyful and active and prevent memory loss!
Quiet at home
Our home this year has been somewhat quiet. For whatever reason, we have not entertained as much as we normally do. I’m not quite sure why this has been. Possibly because we visited more than had people visit us. We have travelled more this year so may not have been home much. Where have we been? To Rome, somewhere we always wanted to visit. When we travelled to a different part of Italy a couple of years ago, we didn’t stop in Rome, so back we went. Barcelona in Spain … to actually babysit our grandson whilst Mum and Dad, avid Spurs supporters, went to the match – but we did the sightseeing too! Forest of Dean for a wedding, St Albans many times, London many times, Stockholm a few times, my hubby went to Zimbabwe and Geneva, we spent weekends away visiting friends or family. The hubby spent quite a lot of time in Leicester helping his brother decorate his home. Come to think of it, we have been around and about and that’s probably why it seemed quite quiet at home. But also, I have worked, worked, worked.
The spent time with our daughter in Stockholm. We had tickets to go to the Nobel Peace Prizes concert – she works for Nobel. A wonderful event watched by the Laureates too. Our daughter was fortunate to be able to interview one of the joint Nobel Prize winners, Dr Denis Mukwege. What a privileged for her. That was another good thing. Our son and daughter-in-law bought their first home together. A beautiful home that will last them a lifetime – it doesn’t look like they will need to move in a hurry. I did try my best to get them to move to our town, but practically it was best for them to stay where they were. Of course, my reason was selfish but for them they made the best choice. We just make more trips to see them, or they to see us! Thats a good thing.
The not too good things are the loss of our family and friends. As the years go by it is of course inevitable that we will have losses but it is still painful. We know that life is birth and death. The loss of anyone close to us affects us each in a different way. The loss may be something other than the finality of death. We can bury our feelings and pretend it didn’t happen. Or share them. Or just keep them close to our hearts. For me, as time goes by, I seem to keep my feelings close to my heart. I nurture them and don’t really share. I write. Is that a good or a bad thing? A not too good thing is realising that people are not always in your life to stay. We must move on as they must too. But memories stay and they too should be nurtured. Just this evening on our family Whatsapp group we shared photos of long ago days. How lovely to reminisce about our family gatherings. But tears welled too as the faces of those loved ones now gone are prominent in our photos.
Why people with birthdays at the beginning of the year are lucky
Isn’t it an age thing when the years just fly by? It was only yesterday when I was writing a new year’s wish to all. I haven’t even blinked an eye and it is that time of the year again. Time gallops by relentlessly.
So much still to do. To say.
I well remember when I was a child I found that waiting for my birthday was the most tedious thing ever. It seemed to take oh so long for a year to pass. I always thought that the reason why my birthday took so long to come around was because it was at the end of the year. November. The people whose birthdays were at the beginning of the year, especially those in January, were so lucky, in my child’s eyes. They didn’t have to wait as long as me for their birthday to come around!
Why did my birthday have to be at the end of the year, I often wondered. How simple were my thoughts, or were they? Then … I finally realised the truth of the matter, that everyone waits a whole year for their birthday. Did you think you were treated unfairly if you had a birthday year end? Did you think like me too? How it makes me smile when I recall!
May you laugh till your sides and mouth ache
I am grateful for having what I have. I am grateful for my health, that I have good health (touch wood!) and have been able to accomplish what I have. I am grateful for the roof over my head. For the food on my table. For the love of the people who surround me. For my true friends, the handful who are true to me. For my acquaintances, colleagues, my social media friends. I am grateful for the people who are in my life. I remember those dear to me who have left and I believe they are watching over us as we carry on with our daily lives. They are at peace.
Thank you my family, friends and followers, or the word I see used around is “tribe”. Thank you for accompanying me on my journeys. There will be some who have dropped by along the way. Thanks to you too – you will have made my life richer by your short stay. May your journey continue and I wish you everything of the best.
A few of my goals for the coming year … on the understanding that if I write it and share it, and think it, it must happen … Finish the book I have been writing for almost two years … it has to be done it’s taken long enough. An ultimate family reunion – it’s been 30+ long years. A holiday in the sun. Give back in the field of education.
There. I’ve said it. It will manifest.
May I take this opportunity to wish you, one and all,
a very Happy New Year when it comes … into 2019
May your dreams become reality.
May your health be the best it can be.
May your sadness become beautiful memories.
May you prosper in everything you do.
May you find love and happiness always.
May you laugh till your sides and mouth ache.
May your friends be the precious gift you deserve.
May you live the life that you want to live.
May you be the person that you want to be.
May your wishes take you to the moon and back.
May your 2019 be the best year yet for you.
Thank you for being a part of my world.
Thank you for following my writings.
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